Most students look forward to an exciting and happy social life at college. After all, this is where you are free from the more stringent rules of high school education. This is also the time where you would need strong and supportive friends to guide you through the rough and tough of college life; the times when having a helping hand is better than being a lone ranger.
So, what if you happen to be a shy person, an introvert? You would, no doubt, be rattled by numerous fears of how to climb the bridge of socialisation! But if you read on, you will find that there are simple ways by which you can conquer your fears and make friends.
Check out the list of extrac urricular activity group and other interest groups operating in the campus. Find one which is of interest to you. You can join and take part. You would usually find people with the same interests gravitating together. This is a great way of finding people of common interests.
Get out of yourself. It takes time, it takes effort but if you put your mind to it, you can do it straight away. Sometimes, it is our fears which hinder us from making that first move. So, just take a deep breath, focus and step out into your new world. Smile, say hello, introduce yourself to that new, interesting person, from next door. It is all in the mind. Keep your eyes and ears open. Be aware of anything interesting that is happening in the neighbourhood- if so, join the fun and soon you will find yourself getting acquainted with people and settling in.
You may be shy and fond of your privacy but keeping a “keep out” sign outside your door, is not going to help your aim of having friends. You can be welcoming, without forcing yourself to be gregarious. Just let your space be open for people to come in. Be comfortable with yourself and show that you can be comfortable with others. Being social is not just about talking a lot; it can also mean to be a good listener.
One good way of getting to know friends is to help someone. If you see someone who needs your help, you can offer your help in a non-intrusive way which would help the person. It can be as simple as offering some directions or helping with some administrative stuff or getting some medical help. Even a small gesture can go a long way.
A part-time job can be a great way of making friends- especially if you are helping out at a restaurant or bar. These are the places frequented by many of the students in their spare time; more importantly, the fun and relaxed atmosphere can help people engage with each other, without the usual social restrictions. In addition, you are also achieving two goals at one go- making friends and earning extra cash.
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